It’s not the first time I’ve talked about it, I’ve never been a fan of dating apps . At least that was before the pandemic. Even though I’ve been officially single for almost seven years now, apps have never been a way of dating for me. I didn’t believe it, not for me. I’ve seen great love stories come out of it before, but I didn’t have the energy to devote to it.
We’re not going to hide it, looking for love, that takes time. A bit like everything in life, if you want something of quality (and here I am talking about a quality relationship, not a person, even if one does not go without the other), it takes time and investment. Quickly as a young adult, I unconsciously decided that this time and energy would go into my studies, then into my career, into my hobbies (mainly dancing), my friends and my family. Nothing surprising when I tell you that I had no more energy to swipe .
It must also be said that everything I have just listed has always been enough for me, so I did not feel the need to go looking for a relationship on top of all that. I have always been aware that I was young and that I had time in front of me, but that certain opportunities, professional or social, would not come up twice. I never closed myself to the idea of a relationship, at least not consciously, and yes I had a few stories here and there, but it was always organic encounters, never because I was at the active search for someone.
This is when my priorities changed. My years of working on my friendships have meant that I have never felt alone, even from a distance. I quickly noticed that I am surrounded by extraordinary family and friends . But now that this bustling social life was gone, or at least drastically changed, I wanted more. I wanted to find out who I am as a couple. I wanted to bond in a different way with someone special to me. I wanted to share and create an intimacy with this person. I was ready to take the time to find the right person.
That’s why I gave dating apps a real chance for the first time. In times of COVID, this is probably the only way to meet someone. I quickly realized that all that was missing before was that I put a little of my own, because in the last year, I have made wonderful people there.
Obviously, dating in times of COVID is really not always easy, let alone with a curfew. I also always remain very careful and it is important for me to follow the sanitary rules. So you have to use creativity. But all that, I reserve it for you for a future article…;)