I’m happy to be a mother, but I don’t want to be just a mom and I want to

According to the government, there is currently a shortage of 3000 early childhood educators and there will be a shortage of 10,000 in 2025. The figures seem enormous? They are scary? Yes. As a future mother, for a few days, I read a lot on the subject and the testimonials do not give confidence …

I’m more than happy to  be a first-time mom , but first and foremost I’m a woman who loves her job too. I don’t want to be a mother. It was never my plan. I am more privileged than many, I know that when the time comes, I will be able to count on the help of my parents and the mother of my spouse, but it is not normal that parents in Quebec stress so much thinking about the daycare that can take care of their little love.

The crazy race for daycares with La Place 0-5

I found out I was pregnant last October. The same evening, pregnancy test in hand, I registered on La Place 0-5. Do I hope to find a childcare center there by July 2022 (when Paul is one year old)? Not really. Seeing how parents seem to have trouble finding child care spaces for their children, it scares me. We see many parents saying that they must stay at home because they cannot find a place to take care of their treasure. In addition, it is generally the women who do not return to work to take care of their children. Women again …

This is really what shocks me the most, that it is still the woman and her inheritance which risks to pay it in the long term …

And I find it SO unfair! You have to think that in the long term, I don’t wish that on anyone, but in the event of separation, it is STILL the woman who amputates her assets… even if the man pays more, for example. She is the one who takes a break, who will have less money for her old age, who leaves the job market, loses experience, pension fund, etc. In a society that we want egalitarian, the fact that families have trouble finding daycare is often a burden that women will carry on their shoulders – and this even if the spouse wants to be helpful and positive through it. Why? Because still often, it is the woman who earns the lower income of the couple, so it is the logical choice financially that it is she who remains at home.

Daycare and taxation… let’s get lost!

Some will then tell me that ultimately, for some couples, an unsubsidized daycare becomes more advantageous with the returns from the government, for taxes, etc. I will be told that parents do not do the right calculations. I answer that it is not normal that it is so complex for parents to understand everything first, and that then, we should make the task easier if it would free up subsidized child care spaces so quickly, no?

What to do?

I’m no expert on this, but there is a dire shortage of female educators and the covid crisis hasn’t helped. Shouldn’t we train more AND give them better working conditions? Our future also depends on it as a woman and as a mother …

I hope to read you in the comments …

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